First of all, I’m so sorry to hear that you’re an incest survivor. Read more

That’s a really kind and thoughtful question to ask! If you and your partner have a close and trusting relationship, I would ask what their specific anxieties are. Providing your partner a safe space to say their fears out loud can be incredibly powerful. Then respond to those anxieties individually. Read more

I think porn can be a healthy part of any couple’s and individual’s sex life, but it’s important to be thoughtful about your usage. Read more

I wrote an article about this exact topic but can’t find it right now. Email me at Vanessa [at] VMTherapy [dot] com and I’ll find it for you later! Read more

You’re welcome! Read more

Hi there! It’s most likely that this is caused by getting into your head and feeling anxious. To the best of my knowledge, there aren’t any physical or medical reasons why you would experience so much variability. So I’d recommend working on staying calmer and more relaxed in the moment. Read more

Hey Alex! Thanks for the question! Read more

Hey Stoncils! Do you mean more comfortable with the technique of choking, or more comfortable with choking your wife? Read more

Hey there. So glad you enjoy my articles! Read more

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Thanks for the questions! What do you mean by frigid? And can you give me a little more detail about what options you’re considering? I’m not sure if you’re trying to ask me how to talk to her about playing with bondage, or if you’re curious about exploring bondage outside of your relationship. Let me know and I’m… Read more

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Hey Alice! So menopause gets really interesting when you look at it from a cross-cultural perspective. In the US, we’re taught to believe that menopause is this horrible process that ruins so many aspects of your life. In other cultures, menopause is revered as an important life milestone. In some cultures, it’s even… Read more

I’m glad you asked this question because it’s a much more common one than you think. There are a LOT of guys out there that struggle to reach orgasm. Most men think this isn’t supposed to be an issue for men, so it can be a relief to know that it’s pretty common. Read more

Hi there! Thanks for the questions. Read more

Hi everyone! Looking forward to answering your questions over the next hour! Read more

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Not sure how that happened, but it has been edited. Thanks for pointing it out! Read more

Couldn’t agree more! The Erika Lust productions are particularly gorgeous. I never thought porn could be so well-produced. Read more

Thanks for coming over to share your thoughts Ms. Naughty! I’m so happy that you do what you do! Read more