I really hope I don’t regret engaging you, but here goes... Read more

I’ve never taken birth control pills and my partner choices have often sucked. Maybe I should start.
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Is she the author who wrote Stiff? If so, I should check this out... Read more

Winning would mean that someone actually finding research to study it. Sadly, I can’t see that being in the cards. Read more

I would love an article like this about IUDs! (If one already exists I would love a link!) Read more

Ever take an Advil, or have a beer, or hell, eat sugar or cheese? Read more

Of course there are risks with the pill and other forms of hormonal contraception! I’m saddened to see that so many seem unaware of the side effects that I was made aware of years before I ever took BC. (Yay for comprehensive sex ed in high school!!) I’d really like to encourage everyone to be informed about their… Read more

I’ve been on the pill for years and had NO idea this was a side effect! I honestly thought it was all me. I can’t tell you how relieved I am. And after all is said and done how I’m maybe re-thinking my relationship with the pill. I really wish my doctor had mentioned literally ANY of this.
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It’s worth stating that women’s adrenals also produce testosterone. It’s an androgen- so, it’s like a steroid. Production is regulated by the pituitary and adrenal glands- and even in men, the “low T” we see in marketing is pretty well hype to sell product. “Lowered testosterone” is often seen in overweight, sedentary… Read more

I take it very seriously. Without that “chemical manipulation” I would’ve lost my ovaries to PCOS years back. Definitely not sexy. Neither is unplanned pregnancy or any of the other painful conditions the BCPs can treat. Humans intentionally alter the ways their bodies function all the time, since time immemorial.… Read more

The Pill can also drastically decrease the amount of lubrication your body creates. This can make sex uncomfortable or even painful. Some women associate getting wet with being turned on, so dryness can be interpreted as a psychological signal that she’s not aroused. Read more

Chemical hormone manipulation. Doesn’t sound very sexy does it? You are intentionally altering the way your body functions. We downplay it, but it is a rather serious thing to do to yourself. Read more

Jesus this is such an amazingly apt picture. Not only is the heart broken but now you’ve cut your finger and it’s bleeding everywhere but your other hand has a piece of glass in it and your brain has completely shut down so it has no idea what to do about your bleeding finger except to watch it drip blood all over…

It’s very complicated and depending on the situation, it’s understandable how some people become unfaithful. I agree that as we mature, we start really understanding the dynamics of relationships at a much deeper level than say...when we were in our early 20’s.
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I was right there with you until 5a. And let’s face it, cheating works both ways. Both genders cheat and have been cheated on. One of the most difficult things in the world is to try to remember — especially after you’ve been hurt — that people are not monolithic. Just because Guy A cheated on me, that does not mean… Read more

When I was younger I used to think that cheating was a deal breaker and unforgiveable. It was a black and white issue. The older I get the greyer the issue becomes and more I see how complicated the roots infidelity can be. I am both more open minded to forgiving it and understanding when someone decides to forgive.… Read more

I’ve ordered from places other than Amazon before and while the packages themselves come discreetly packaged, I got a lot of obvious sexually explicit mailings afterwards. I know my mailman too well for this to happen. Is there a way to prevent those envelopes from showing up when ordering from a specialty shop? Read more

In my city there are explicitly sex-positive educational sex shops. They’re great and are run by people who genuinely want to help you, are feminists and well-versed in queer sex. Talking to them is an educational experience and it’s intended to be. Then there are the seedy 24-hour porn shops run by a creepy dude that… Read more

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One more big issue with buying from Amazon: They don’t allow you to delete your purchase history. That can be an embarrassing problem if you want to keep what you buy extremely private. Read more